“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
I’ve long been familiar with this quotation by Eleanor Roosevelt, but I only recently came across it in its original context. In 1960, Roosevelt published a book entitled You Learn By Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life. At the time of its writing, she was still receiving about a hundred letters a day. Although I had the opportunity to read at the FDR Presidential Library many of the letters written to her during the desperation of the Great Depression, I had no idea this continued 15 years after the death of her husband. Apparently many of the epistolary queries posed problems about which the writers assumed Roosevelt would have the ability to answer from her reservoir of life experience. Her keys in this book are as follows:
- Learning to Learn
- Fear — the Great Enemy
- The Uses of Time
- The Difficult Art of Maturity
- Readjustment Is Endless
- Learning to Be Useful
- The Right to Be an Individual
- How to Get the Best Out of People
- Facing Responsibility
- How Everyone Can Take Part in Politics
- Learning to Be a Public Servant
Roosevelt made no pretense of having all the answers, but she laid out this justification in the foreword:
“I have no such all-inclusive wisdom to offer, only a few guideposts that have proved helpful to me in the course of a long life. Perhaps they may steer someone way from the pitfalls into which I stumbled or help them to avoid the mistakes I have made. Or perhaps one can learn only by one’s own mistakes. The essential thing is to learn” (1).
The quotation with which I began appears in the chapter on fear. Roosevelt identified the danger of ignoring fear, which spirals into failure and inevitably leads to a loss of confidence. The only solution is to accept nothing less than success.
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. . . . The danger lies in refusing to face the fear, in not daring to come to grips with it. If you fail anywhere along the line it will take away your confidence. You must make yourself succeed every time. You must do the thing you think you cannot do” (29-30).
The Franklin D. Roosevelt Presidential Library holds a huge collection of Eleanor Roosevelt’s papers — see Correspondence with Government Departments (1934-1945) for the aforementioned Depression-era letters. Some of these correspondences (primarily interactions with other well-known individuals) have been digitized and are available online. And the Eleanor Roosevelt Papers Project at George Washington University is working to publish Roosevelt’s political papers.